Finding your own time is not being selfish, and it should not have any cause for guilt. With the crazy, busy world we live in, finding time for yourself can be a huge challenge. As women we do experience guilt when we manage to find a few moments of time for ourselves and sometimes, we give up before we do because it doesn’t feel that it’s worth the effort. But…it is. In fact, taking time for yourself gives your brain a chance to reboot, improves your concentration, increases productivity, gives you a chance to think deeply and helps you problem solve more effectively. It also gives you a better sense of balance and self-awareness that can lead to a better understanding of yourself–what drives you, what inspires you, what excites you.
Ready to find some time for yourself? Here are a few ideas:
- While it may be challenging with the schedules we are all keeping, you can wake up a little earlier than everyone else. This gives you a few moments of alone time to do the things that are easier to do when it’s quiet and the phone is not ringing. You can also unplug from all your electronics and spend some time like it was 1960.
- Reschedule some of your “tasks” …what is on your never-ending list that can be eliminated or consolidated? Can anything be postponed for a later date. Better yet, can you delegate? You will be able to free up some time for yourself and not feel guilty about it.
- Start small. You don’t have to find hours of alone time. With 20-30 minutes you can read a chapter of a book, meditate, take a walk or sit and simply be. When you see how much more relaxed you are, chances are you will be looking at more ways to restructure your day.
- Drop the guilt. Spending time with yourself is time well spent because it makes you a happier person to be around. Spending time with yourself benefits everyone because by having a happier and healthier mindset, you’re in a better frame of mind to take care of the people who are important to you. Spending time with yourself is preventative medicine to combat burnout. What good will you be to anyone if you eventually burnout? (And you will if you don’t take care of yourself.)
How ever you decide to enhance your life, remember that this is your time being spent. Do you know how you want to spend it? What and who are your priorities. Life is short, time is fast, no replay, no rewind… so enjoy every moment as it comes. Remember, your life only gets better when you do. Work on yourself and the rest will follow. Put on your own oxygen mask first.
Judy Hoberman www.sellinginaskirt.com